okay, i now have to ask- my son who scored over 15o on the wisc. we are having problmes at school- essentially he is running the classroom right now because of his very bad behavior. He is very bored and has adequately articulated this. The principal has thrown around the idea of aspergers. JUst one eg. This for a kid who one day as he was walking down the street past a homeless man took out the $20 his grama had just given to him because the man apparently needed it more than him.-we explained to him that this was not the best way to deal with the homeless problem. Actually would not have a problem with a dx if it was accurate. But dx appear to be most convient for schools so they don't have to deal with the real problems. Anyways I have heard ridiculous things from some teachers-Fortunately my son had this great 4 yr old preschool teacher who pegged him 100% so I know that I am not delusional.

Opps forgot the question is- is this common mis dx- any experience anyone????

When my DS10 was 6, his teacher characterized his behavior as annoying. She liked him, but like me, found him exhausting. She suggested ADHD. Unlike some parents who rightfully get upset when others play doctor, we were not upset with her because she had already earned our respect as a teacher.

We took him to a developmental pediatrician where a team spent several hours over a couple of visits to get very detailed history. The MD reviewed the teacher’s concerns and history before she medically examined and interviewed him.

She concluded that he was a social, well-mannered, inquisitive, intellectually gifted boy who was under challenged in school. I chose to share the report with the school. I believe it may be best to consider and then rule out any dx that others may perceive. This should put an end to the speculation.

the comment about 150 reminds me of Mite's first grade teacher telling me that at least a third of the parents in her classes thought their kids were brighter than average.

CAPITAL DUH!!!!

HA!! I love all these, but I have the topper.

My son was reading chapterbooks and doing math before kindergarten. Naturally, I tried to get him in at 4. Public school, nothing hoity-toity.

He was denied early admission because he could not hop on one foot.

The next year, I went to get him enrolled in K and when the teacher greeted him, she handed him a informational paper "for your mommy to read." He looked up and said, "nevermind mom--I know your eyes are bothering you after the car ride in the sun yesterday. I'll read it to you." He read the entire flippin' thing right then and there (including all of the big words, pronouncing them properly) and the K teacher ran out of the room to get advice from some of her fellow teachers. lol!

Of course, I sat back with a big "toldyaso" grin.

Oh yeah, the foot hopping one might just be a winner!

willagayle:

Mite's first grade teacher telling me that at least a third of the parents in her classes thought their kids were brighter than average.

Oh Dear - how did you keep a straight face?
Just be glad that 1st grade teachers aren't called on to teach statistics.

Could I have pulled off a serious face, gotten a piece of paper and drawn a bell curve - complimented her on her intutive grasp of standard deviations and acute observational skills? And kept on educating, promoting my point of view?
Maybe on a good day, if I had said my prayers properly - maybe not.
Generally, when dealing with people IRL, I try to be delighted with any "difference of opinion" I can get out in the open, because they can be turned into such teachable moments.
But remember - even with all this - I could not get that first grade skip from the public school.
FWIW,

Trinity

Willagayle and Trinity,

I agree with a lot of what you post, but I have to comment on the teacher who said that 1/3 of the parents think their child is brigher than average.

I am responding as both a parent of a pg child AND a former teacher, I can tell you that many parents do THINK their children are brighter than average. The problem with that teacher's comment would only be if she believed that 1/3 of the children actually are brighter than average. Just telling you what the parents THINK isn't really a dumb comment.

I think that could be the reason it's so hard for parents whose children are actually brighter than average to get anywhere with some teachers. Of course, with test results or at the very least, a little observation of the child, a good teacher would be able to figure out which children actually are brighter than average.

Hope I didn't offend--I am a big time lurker, and I really enjoy reading all your posts.

Thanks!

I could be waaaay off base, but I thought we were all chuckling over the fact that technically, a full half are "brighter than average"...unless of course they all score right on that 50th %ile.

Granted, given that "average" is quite a large band, the teacher's mindset does make sense.

But given my friend's expectation that ALL children should be able to get over the 50th percentile bar.....well, number confusion is rampant.

And don't just lurk there adpugliese, please join in!!!

(I still think the hopping comment wins!)

Well, my feeling from the interaction with the 1st grade teacher was that a) she was exagerating and b) she didn't get that 50% are above average. She wasn't thinking about those 68% about the mean. She was just being snotty with me. She was wrong about Mite. I'll always wonder who else slipped through her biases.

So, I guess I'd stick with my DUH. I can understand the other perspective, but I really don't feel she was being that deep in what she said.

thanks for the alternate view, though...